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Post by concernedforthekid on Sept 20, 2003 16:49:10 GMT -5
If a man is high on crack?cocaine. At the time of conception,can the sperm be damaged or effected adversly?(Can it effect the baby?)
I know this isnt a complaint or congradulation of the fire but i knew there are smart people that post on here so i thought id take a stab at it .
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Post by MyParentsHouse on Sept 20, 2003 22:04:37 GMT -5
most likely the sperm will NOT be of decent enough quality to even fertilize the egg.....So if a baby was conceived while on drugs...it will be affected if the mother is on crack...if the guy on crack and still has any swimmers left at all it will not affect the fetus at all that has been proven. Sorry guys had to answer this one as it was a valid question and I have background in this field.....
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Post by tragicallyblonde on Sept 22, 2003 0:04:00 GMT -5
If your and yours are doing crack/cocaine...first, get help....second, NO SEX...NO BABIES>>>!!!  .. ..I am relieved to know that you came here for help.. You still have some sense about you...Please, for the sake of any future children, refrain and remain..  ...I hope this fire, our postings, and the outpouring of compassion from our city, has given you something to think about...PLEASE, DO YOURSELF A FAVOUR...Stop and think about life...,yours, hers, and all of ours...There is so much out there for you..  .. Step up plate to the buddy, it's there waiting for YOU.. ..Good luck and godspeed...TB.. |
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Post by Its the auntie on Sept 22, 2003 18:55:49 GMT -5
Im sorry , im actually the aunt who posted this question , just tring to get some info for my sister who is curently fighting a crack head for child custody and divorce but the courts are beliving the crack head ,mind you ,my sister whom has never been on drugs and never will . The reason for the question is that the children are really messed up . the son is adhd/add and smart as a whip! , and the daughter is so quiet and wont leave the mothers site , but she is very whiney) sorry for spelling .
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Post by MyParentsHouse on Sept 22, 2003 20:12:57 GMT -5
if not it may be a case of having to deal with it that way. If there is a problem with drugs then both parents would have to be tested and have random testing done at any time to prove that they are ON program. ADD/ADHD can hit any child not necessarily a child born while one or the other parent is on crack. There is no reason that the courts would take the children out of the mothers custody unless there was a problem in the home...(USUALLY) If she is concerned then tell her to take a voluntary parenting course(not that she is a bad parent no implicatons of that) just to show that she is committed to these children. Has she ever found drug paraphenilia(sp) and has it been reported to the police? Has there ever been reported cases of the father being rough with either her or the children? These are just some things to think about...
As far as being messed up I think that any child going thru a divorce is messed for a time...I know I was as a child being a child of 2 divorces... The clingyness can be caused by having to go back and forth between 2 parents as well as the fact that they may feel they have to CHOOSE between their parents and as a child you love both..UNCONDITIONALLY as they are faults or not. I feel for the children...just make sure that one thing never happens...never talk about the other spouse badly in front of the children...then they will be REALLY torn...or then start hating the one parent doing the bad mouthing. I hope this works out for the best for you and the kids(and the mother) Ask the courts for mandatory drug testing if she thinks it is a problem(not sure if this can be done but doesn't hurt to ask) Good Luck
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Post by Auntie on Sept 22, 2003 21:07:37 GMT -5
She has gone to the police . You would really have to meet this guy to know . He is a cumpolsive liar. He colud tell someone he is the pope and they would belive him . No word of a lie. She has a lawyer but it is through legal aid , ( which i dont belive the lawyer is taking this case seriously.What started the whole thging is that the daughter came to the and said that the father had touched her. So child protection was called and a police investigation done , i know my sister and know she wouldnt lie . she has no reason too. Anyway they did a polygraph on him , and it came back negative , now he is going after the rest of my familie for making allogations about him , when the kid said it . Any way , after 5 years of being married to him she finnaly told us that he ahd hit her while on cocaine . And she dosent know if that question of him striking her was asked , and if it was what other questions was he able to lie about . Any way what it comes down to is she has no self essteem no self confidence and everybody thinks we are pushing her into the decisions (his familiy him and courts) but she dosent have a clue about anything to do with court . She is an excellent mother but dosent understand the leagal system , becasue of this she thinks she is stuipd . And she is afraid that he will get more custody and be able to screw her familiy around because she dosent understand the system. And it hurts when i being her younger sister has to explaine things to her . she has gone to , the womens shelter and everyone we could think of but all the want to do is helkp them reconciliate , and thas completely out of the question , dose any one know of any where else she can get help from , we were thinking the elizabeth fry. But i shold stop now i belive i have said enough . But with any info i can get i hope i can help her out . thanx
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...I hope this fire, our postings, and the outpouring of compassion from our city, has given you something to think about...PLEASE, DO YOURSELF A FAVOUR...Stop and think about life...,yours, hers, and all of ours...There is so much out there for you.. 
.. Step up plate to the buddy, it's there waiting for YOU..